Marriage Counseling

Read this from Rick Warren this morning...

Let me give you a whole lot of marriage counseling in two words: grow up! The number one cause for marriage incompatibility is not incompatibility. I don't even believe in incompatibility. It is a myth made up by divorce lawyers. Any two people can become compatible if they're willing to grow up. If they're willing to be unselfish. The root cause of every single marriage problem is selfishness. I want what I want when I want it and you want what you want when you want it. My will and ego faces your ego and we're going to fight.

It's all about I. It's all about me. It's not about we. It's about me. Even when one person wants to do the we if the other person want to be an I you're going to have problems. It really comes down to just grow up.

What is incompatibility? It is immaturity. Any two people can learn to get along with each other if they're willing to grow, if they're willing to be loving, if they're willing to think of more than themselves, if they're willing to compromise and willing to think of the other person.

This should really reduce the amount of time I spend counseling couples. I'll just sit them down and say in a really kind voice, "You both really need to grow up. I'll see you next week."